My dad came back from attending the funeral of your parents (I was 8 at the time) and he was marveling about how many cars there were at the cemetery. It was not til 55 years later when we were burying him that I learned it was the same cemetery. We divided the flowers and put half on his grave, half on theirs.
Obama's inaction on this was disappointing but not totally surprising, given his record. I hope that Biden, despite his disappointing record on numerous things, past and present, comes through on this. Best wishes to you and your family.